A Little Unconventional

I know that I am finally finding myself and that I had been lost down a really deep hole.  A hole so deep that I didn’t know that difference between day and night.  I was under the illusion that I had a life and that that life was fulfilling.  I was living some dream that I couldn’t wake from and didn’t know I was even in.


I don’t know what happened to even wake me from my slumber.  I think it was actually my decision to go to Scotland that made my whole world come unhinged.  Unhinged, in the best sense of the word.


I know that I was just following a deep inner hunch that happened on Feb 17th2014.  It happened outside of Blue Fish on the corner of Burlington Avenue and Main Street in the little town of Fairfield Iowa.  It was strangely enough in the moments after my husband suffered from a massive pulmonary embolism.  I felt this huge weight lifted off my shoulders and then the message came to me that the next long term, serious relationship that I would be in would be with a guy in Scotland.  Weird, I know.  The timing perhaps wasn’t appropriate, but I guess neither am I.


So, I know I am perhaps a little unconventional, perhaps a lot unconventional.  I don’t deal well with expressing my emotions.  My family didn’t raise me that way.  I run, arms flailing in the air when the opportunity of speaking my mind out loud comes anywhere near to me. At least, this was the old me. This was the blanket I covered myself with up until this last fall. This blanket of sleeping, slumbering emotions that were kept tight down under lock and key.  After the awakening, that’s what I will call the events that started occurring after 2/17/14.  Actually, more even after I finally listened to that inner guidance and decided to go to Scotland, that’s when the shift started to manifest.



A little unconventional.  That is what I like, or better yet, a hell of a whole lot of it.  Favorite words based on the sound value.  Fuck would have to be the number one word.  Fucking, followed closely by Duck, Suck and Rucksack.  It might go slightly beyond the sound value, perhaps meaning is too closely bound to it for me to only hear the sound of it.

I also like the sound of Blather, lather, rather and full stop. In that order.  It brings to mind mindless bath time after a good hard work out. Candles lit, or the glow of the salt lamp dimly in the window sill.  The body glistening in the steamy hot water infused with Dead Sea Salts.  The worries, if there ever happen to be any clinging to my limbs would melt away like the 4-foot icicles that hang off the second-floor roof of the old farm house.


And today, I like the sound of the word Freak Storm, forlorn and worm hole. Where do these words even come from?



I see that there is really no time like the present to delve into the feeling state of total and utter surrender.  To strip the self of all inhibitions and lay naked to the passions to dig in and find the hidden longing that is in there, under the surface of the fuck you and fuck off front that I put off when I am in the public eye.  To lay there stretched out without any place to hide.  Perhaps even bring out the ropes to bind me from trying to squirm out of this most vulnerable place.  My back arches away from the pleasure, my hands grip tightly to the piles of pillows above my head.  Holding on, letting go, riding the waves of pleasure that I crave and melt deeper and deeper into.  I become the moan, something clicked, and I came full circle into the reality that passion is alive and well in my world.  The real live, breathing and walking 4 miles a day world. It is hard to deny it when you are living the dream.  Where water takes the weight of time, the swimmer, the dreamer, the wanderer down the path less taken.


I don’t see that there is any way to emerge from this life experience other than totally and utterly transformed.  I am throwing stones thru the shallows.  I am drifting in and out of consciousness.  I am trying not to leave claw marks in his back or bite marks on his shoulders.  In this whole wide world, I haven’t allowed myself to let go into pleasure like this day, this breath that amps up and I let out a cry of release, pulling my hair and shaking my head in abandon and release.  I’m in too deep to come up for air now.  I can’t even see the end of this and I don’t want to look for it.  I am in gratitude for the experience.  I allow and say yes to the opportunities as they show up at my door. He doesn’t even knock anymore.  And I like that.A lit

Her Ways were Odd




She will be remembered for the quiet Magic that followed her.  The flowers that seemed as if to sprout in her hair.  She wasn’t the type of girl to go to the trouble to try to look pretty or be good.  She didn’t care what others thought about her.  In the summer, she shaved her head, partly because she liked to shock people out of their sleepwalking ways, but mostly to keep cool.

She will be remembered for the wings that unfurled from under her shoulder blades.  Sometimes, when you sat behind her in a crowded room, you would see the fabric on her shirt shudder.  She mostly kept to herself and she tried to blend in and not be noticed.  She always moved through the room quickly, like the room was on fire.  It was as if she might fuse to the earth if she wasn’t in constant motion.

Some folks swore that they saw her either late in the evenings when the moon was out or very early in the mornings…up high in the heavens – doing loops with other smaller birds and dive bombing trees only to pull out before impact.

She will be remembered for her unusual way of listening intently and speaking only when there was utter silence.  Her voice blended in with the silence.  Some words would float like a soap bubble and glisten with rainbow hues enlivening the senses.  But no one could ever hold onto her words, they flew right out the window and out of the memory cells.  Somehow her words were more like music, to be heard and to inspire, but them let go and let loose. They weren’t meant for the human spectrum of hearing and knowing.  They were catalysts for inner change and for starting uprisings of love.

She was like remembering a perfect summer day with no flies, ripe watermelon slabs laid out to devour, iced green tea with a fresh mint sprig floating ever so perfectly.  She never put anything to paper.  She was to be forgotten.  Her time was fleeting, her ways were odd and she might even be a tune you hum to yourself rather than someone you remember.  It was the Magic that surrounded her.  The feeling that you got when you were in the same room.  You just knew that there was a purpose, a grand scheme and that you and she were all apart of it.  We all had roles to play and there was no doing it wrong.

She always had a sideways smirk on her lips.  Did she know something that we didn’t?  Did she know the secrets to the Universe, like Being Present without expectations or without regrets?  She knew how to have her glass filled to full and overflowing.  Did she ever really answer anyone’s questions?  She said she was an open book, but how can you read something that has never and will never be written?

She will be remembered in the songs we sing and the stories we tell about her as we sit around the campfire. She also loved music, anything with a great beat or a story to be told caught her attention.  We all think she was here, but there is no proof of it.  Like stories, we tell small children of the Easter Bunny or Santa Clause that become real.  The oddest thing we will remember is that no one ever caught her on film.  Her image somehow just wasn’t there.  The air was thick and the sunlight glistened, but she wasn’t captured.  Perhaps she wasn’t here at all.

The final proof is in the pudding, or in her case the Pies.  She loved fruit pies.  You could always win her over with a fresh baked Raspberry or peach pie. It was the best way to get her attention.   We might be able to tell she was here simply by the volumes of pies that were consumed by her.  Is something missing proof of Existence?!

To Leap as if to Fly


He draws near, giving off sparks in the darkness, like a flashlight, beaming straight into my vulnerable heart. Those eyes, those eyes, always drawing me in deeper. I slide down the slippery mud banks in the darkness and find myself surrounded by a prism of rainbow light that permeates me and warms my limbs, I fall asleep and dream of his piercing, loving gaze. We frolic in the tall grasses, they brush gently on my cheeks, we roll down the grassy green hillside and fall into a pile of ultraviolet feathers, fallen moonbeams, and mounds of golden-hued rose petals. We lounge there into the wee hours of the morning. I hear him whimpering as he dreams of chasing the golden squirrel from treetop to treetop. To leap as if to fly.

Ours was the truest love affair. From that moment I saw him in the Escondido Animal Shelter in that room filled with Pit Bulls and he stretched up to reach for me and told me he wanted to teach me to love deeper. I had no idea what was in store. I’ve literally followed him for the past 6 and a half years. He out in front and center. He has taken me thru storms, lost at sea, waves rocking my boat until it felt like there was no horizon left. Then we awaken to the sunrise, together, side by side, calm seas, warm glow of the sun kissing our bodies. We have weathered many storms together. I thought for sure he would outlive my father, who he loved deeply and completely. We learned to find joy in simple things together. Treats after pooping, or upon entering his grandparents’ house. All he had to do was stare and bark until he got what he wanted. Daily walks, my fair-weather friend, would peek out the doggie door to see if it was raining or snowing and decide to stay in until absolutely necessary, then to run on tippy toes and back inside to the warmth of the couch and blankets to snuggle with me even longer.

I will honor his memory by doing the downward dog, stretching like he did daily upon getting up from any seated or lying position. We would do this together. 4 feet on the ground and butts in the air. He was a natural, I a copycat.

I learned all I know about unconditional loving from him. Who was the master and who the pupil? I wasn’t a good dog owner if you think that requires discipline and being the alpha in command. I was in awe and reverence to this sacred soul in a little doggie suit. I would do anything to make his life more comfortable and enjoyable. When I traveled I would always bring him a new toy, and he treated each with respect and took such joy in each and every one. He never chewed up a stuffed animal like a normal dog. He loved them and liked to sleep with his favorite at the time under his head for a pillow. Lately, it has been a round giraffe. He liked teasing me with it, acting like I could actually have it, then withholding the prize from me.

I don’t think I can part with his toys. They will be a gentle reminder of his daily sweet nature and my love for him. Is it crazy that I want to give him the bunny and the moose that I kept out of his reach and called my toys? Is it crazy to want to send them to rest with him when I bury him out on the back 40? I know he’s in the spirit world and not the physical, but something about me letting go of them now gives me a sense of abundance and doing the right thing. Crazy, I know, call me crazy. Crazy in Love with a Dog named Dan. Who also answered to Sheridan, Dan the Man, Danny Dog, Danno the Manno, BoBo, BooBoo, Little Buddha Boy, Dan-zer, Dan-Dan, Pooh Bear, Lil’ Darlin, Danny Doodle, Bob, Bubba, and Daniel Boone.

Mother Always Said


UNADJUSTEDNONRAW_thumb_1e11Her mother always said, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. Her mother heard this from her own mother as well and it became ingrained, so she, of course, passed it on to her children. But it stopped right there. She had a different view of this, she felt it was healthier to come to terms with your emotions and own your own thoughts and speak from the heart with compassion, but be honest.
She agreed with her mother, that spouting off negativity for no reason, or to harp on something unsettling from the past was a waste of energy. But she saw the value in being authentic and there was a time and a place to voice the ‘not nice’ stuff. It never was to be used to hurt another. She loved the practice of writing a letter and burning it, or email and trashing or deleting it. There was something very satisfying in speaking out the emotions in the heat of it all and breathing some deep cleansing breaths and then letting it all go. The Universe was her best friend and was always there with a kind shoulder to lean upon.
Another thing her mother always said was…”if you feel bad, get busy!” She resisted this one growing up. It seems like an avoidance of being present with your emotions, a running away from or stuffing of them which she thought was totally unhealthy.   After coming to a more enlightened view on the first point, she liked to wallow in her own emotions and get carried away by her own moods and run with her monkey mind on many a crazy trip.  Once she had gotten that, she then knew what her mother meant by simply getting busy. There was no reason to dwell in the past or get carried away on an emotional tangent that created drama and suffering. She saw how suffering was all self-inflicted and how it was all a matter of choice. You could choose exactly how you reacted to anything happening to or around you. Being busy was more just a sense of Being in her own flow and not getting sidetracked into crazy making – or what she would see as being a drama queen. She would rather stay in her center and keep moving forward or at least stay in a more bliss-filled state of being.
But the favorite thing that her mother always said was, “what a heavenly breeze” when the weather was just so. She liked this saying and found it stuck in her own repertoire of comments to use when she felt on top of the world. She made up her own unique sayings as well. She loved to exclaim “I’m a happy camper!” She had fond memories of her mother and wondered if her own daughter would feel the same way about her someday.

Gentle Gorilla Tactics


Part of her loved her writing, she called her Ms Twilla. Ms Twilla had ruby red curly ringlets of hair that fell down around her face and just over her shoulders. She had grass green eyes that shot out tiny lightning bolts of warm light from somewhere deep within. With each jolt, you felt her love sink deeper into your soul. She dressed like a butterfly, wearing greens shades, oranges a-blazing all highlighted with fuchsia. She also loved to paint her face and body. Sometimes you thought she was fully dressed, but upon second glance you found that she was partly naked. It was always a joy to encounter Ms Twilla. She couldn’t help but lift your spirits. Ms Twilla loved to curl up by the fireplace in the evening on a sheepskin rug with a cuppa Damiana tea and listen to her read her daily pages. Ms Twilla smiled, oooohed and aaaahed during the read back. She would then pipe in with lines, and only lines, word for word that had touched her fancy and brought tears to her eyes and joy to her heart.
On the other hand there was the part of her that hated her writing, that she called Mrs Montgomery. She had long jet black hair with a one-inch highlight of silver that shot across her forehead and down her back like a blatant skunk stripe. She always wore it up in a tight bun when she went out in public so as not to attract so many sideways glances and snickers. Mrs Montgomery always interrupted her every thought and word and criticized her original thinking in an attempt to put her into boxes. She paced the room and mumbled loudly as she was reading back and interrupted even while she was deep in thought, in a flow that was moving her writing so effortlessly, like a stream flows to the river and the river to the ocean.
Sometimes Ms Twilla would appear from behind the chocolate colored velvet curtains and shoot pea-sized pebbles at Mrs Montgomery, attempting to distract her and calm the energy in the room thru her gentle gorilla tactics. Ms Twilla loved her writing and hated to see anything get in her way. Once she slipped some valerian drops into Mrs Montgomerys tea, knocking her out for a few hours of much-needed peace and quiet.
She wrote every day. It was her religion, her way of tapping into her innermost dreams.  It was a type of gauge, a barometer of sorts that her friends could tell how she was doing by listening to her readings or by reading her writings. They could tell which part was alive and well behind the scenes. Was it Ms Twilla inspiring her or was it Mrs Montgomery that was busy meddling in her business, crushing her dreams and sidetracking her on worries, complaints and in the box thinking?
When she loved her life, was on top of the world and being supported, she was walking arm in arm with Ms Twilla, whistling tunes and noticing tiny ladybugs and each flower they encountered and finding familiar shapes in the clouds overhead. She loved it when Ms Twilla was in her glory. Her words just seemed to bubble forth, no thinking, no space between them. Her words came from some aspect of herself that she didn’t even know existed.
Hallelujah! It was high time, Mrs Montgomery took a forced sabbatical, they shipped her off to sea. They signed her up for a trip around the world on a slow boat headed towards China. She thought she had won the trip playing Bingo, but it was all rigged. It was a time to celebrate and toast their bubbly water with fresh lime and lemon wedges. They danced on their toes and twinkled with the stars.

Wings of my Heart

sunset cuppa

I am searching the world for you, my love. Builder of treehouses and the perfect cuppa tea. Lover of pugs and dreamer of a quieter, more peaceful planet. Birdwatcher, dream chaser, river rafter, tree climber. We have walked in the still of the night, under the same stars and sliver of a moon. We see them but from a different side of the world. I somehow know that you are in Scotland, I scour the rolling hills and thick woodlands. Hiked the highlands and the lowlands but somehow find you online of all places! Ready to dig in the lush dirt of your native farmlands. Co-mingle our rich dirt, loamy with peaty. My clay, silt, sand, gravel and yes even boulders with your Peaty Gleys and podzols. Piping hot bowls of Scottish oats with Irish butter. Earl Grey tea with tupelo honey. This morning the sun rose early above the hickory grove. The sky was a particular shade of deep red vermillion. The frost hung onto the weeds and branches waiting for the heat of the day, which today would be a brisk 37, but at sunrise was 12. My heart hangs in the tops of the trees, I graze on hickory nuts, husking the woody outer shell onto the frozen ground below. My mind has flown south for the winter, leaving my heart alone in this frozen wasteland. Without the ability to reason I long to take flight, to lift off, to soar high above the frozen rivers and lakes. I fly south by south-west until the heavens start to turn to deep hues of Ultramarine and the horizon is on fire with a burst of shocking pink. It seems impossible, and unfathomable to see these colors at the same time. Only from the wings of my heart, seeking the warmth of your shoulder to lean upon. To have you wrap your strong arms around my tiny frame in comparison to yours. You are an artist that paints with your dreams, which have been distilled down into pure hues and luminous powders that when water is added become another color altogether. You paint my naked body with robes of saffron. You have milked the trees of the Garcinia trees for centuries to have your storehouses of resin. The flat round cakes that are stacked like poker chips in scarlet red velvet satchels. You carry them on your back along with tiny cobalt blue vials of dragon tears. You are my alchemist, the edge pieces of my puzzle that make it so effortless for me to take the next breath and the next, like a child that has followed the same dirt path to school for years, knowing how each step feels beneath their bare feet. I wear no mask for you. I climb out of my lookout, high in the treetops and put on the water for a cuppa tea with you. Earl grey with Tupelo honey.

Our Puddle of Earth


A rabbit kickboxing a crow on our puddle of earth…
making mud pies and cherry crisp out of that which grows
along the banks of the river.
We long to eat with the kings and queens of long-forgotten
castles and tip their hats to the pretty ladies as
they stroll by.
Where have they all gone? Fishing? Golden-eyed carp
and bottom dwellers, longing to know the truth,
the way, the stories that the ancestors passed down
generation to generation.
The crabapples fill the streets and the roll down
the hill when the wind blows.
The rains begin to pitter pat on the tin roof and
I long to hear your voice.
I long to journey down the same path that you walked.
Don’t touch it, its a bee. If it lands on you stand still,
don’t touch it.
Find a stick, act like a turtle, what noise does a turtle make?
The sun shines down thru the leaves as they cling
to the branches waiting for the last warm day…
turning colder and then to frozen ice as
it clings to them as a small child holds tight to
their mother’s leg.
The third coming of the blackberries…
racing with time, chasing faster than a roadrunner,
a jackrabbit, running to outwit the first frost.

It’s a game that we like to play.
Wondering how long the growing season can be stretched
before the frost falls on the pumpkins and turns everything
to mush.
It’s a long road, a dirt path, no creatures in sight that have
been domesticated for man-kinds evil ways.
Only wild animals, jackals, long-eared owls, coyotes
and Bob-bob-whites speak up.
They know that we are out of our element…
but they have learned to live and let live.
Something that we humans are just now starting to grasp.
We come together along this stretch of wild roses,
and winding roads, we learn about our heart
and how its connected to every creature.
We smile as the younger man on the bicycle passes this way.
Fall has come, we must find a hollowed out old tree
to snuggle up within…
or find where the bicycle is parked and
see if our heart has at last found its resting ground.
The jet-black dog pulls against his collar
and digs a hollow in the dirt to sleep for the chilly winters night.
Our puddle of earth brings us warmth,
a burning fire at our hearth
and a sense of Belonging to a greater good.